Friday, January 25, 2013
Oh the promises the System breaks
So, in theory we can now apply for adoption. When I say "we," I don't actually mean my husband and myself as we have no apparent power over the filing part. We are reliant on the oh so inefficient, I just want to tear my hair out and scream, System. CD's case has been in the "adoption unit" where the kind, paid by our tax dollars folks were supposed to be readying CD's case for adoption for 15 months. The process is not rocket science. They have to submit a packet to the state that includes CD's medical and dental information. They need to have our background checks up to date. They need to have us sign a "part B" document that basically summarizes what the System knows about CD, her biological family and whatever else they didn't tell us when she was "just" our foster daughter. They need some collateral information from places like the daycare to confirm that my family is, in fact, a good family for CD.
Most recently, the case manager who was covering our case was actually a well seasoned supervisor who stepped in when a worker quit. He made me promises like, "I will make sure to stay involved in the case." "I will be point person on this case." "I WILL MAKE SURE WE FILE FOR ADOPTION ON THE DAY AFTER THE APPEAL PERIOD IS OVER BECAUSE THERE IS NO REASON HER PACKET SHOULDN'T BE READY TO GO ON THAT DAY."
Sorry, I didn't mean to yell. I promise, I am only yelling in my head. I was so ready for this to happen that I didn't bother yelling in real life, just shed maybe two tears, ok, maybe 3.
Promises shmomises. This is what is really happening. Case manager supervisor guy assigned CD's case to a new case manager. She came out to our house for the first time last night, about 3 weeks after she assigned the case. She came 45 minutes late for her appointment and didn't bother to call to let us know she would be late. She had NO IDEA the appeal period was over. She gave me a medical form for the pediatrician to fill out that I could have taken care of months ago. Part B is not ready for us to read or sign because it probably hasn't even been written yet. They have not even contacted the dentist. The have not asked for the collateral information.
So this saga continues. The story of the people ready to adopt and the snail.