Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Trial is on today & how amazing my daughter is

I am home today when I should be at work.  If you don't follow me on twitter or my real life facebook you haven't had the pleasure of hearing me whine about spending my 17th wedding anniversary struggling to breath through "Lincoln" or my New Year's Day in the ER being treated for an out of control asthma attack that was not responding to the pharmacy we have at home to treat asthma flare ups for myself and my sons.  I had originally thought that my asthma kicked up because I hadn't taken an antihistamine before I cleaned out a closet (I am allergic to dust) but it looks like it may have been an early sign that I was getting sick.  So I am sick.  And annoyed about being sick.

Anyway.  On a good note, being home, I was able to spend some time on the phone with the law guardian's supervisor who called me on her way in to court today.  She was AWESOME.  She knew the case, was a pleasure to talk to, said the nicest things about our family, told me what she expects in court and even discussed with me my fury over adoption stipend policy.  She thinks I have a case, by the way, and that the policy department will likely try to shut me up by offering CD a stipend so I don't bring a case against them for illegal procedures due to racial differentiations and current federal law.  If you've read recent posts, you know what I am referring to.  I am sorry, I am too lazy to link to them right now.

I thought it was a good time to just talk about how awesome my daughter is as her trial to free her for adoption is underway.  Because that is what I am thinking about today.  My CD.  Yesterday, after I came home from the ER, she planted kisses upon kisses all over my face.  My CD who wants to marry each one of her parents and brothers.  My dear friend Alia Ramer's (@aliaramer) daughter was with my family this weekend and told us that her mom used to tell her children when they wanted to marry their immediate family members that you marry someone to add them to your family and that daddy, brother, whoever, is already in your family.  I thought it was brilliant and tried it with CD a few times.  Nah.  She still wants to marry us.

My CD, who woke me up over the weekend by holding my hand, then hugging it and kissing it until I turned over, gave her a smile and a hug.  My CD who wants to follow me into the bathroom when I take a shower and goes to the linen closet to get me two towels, because she knows I like to wrap one around my head.  I am the only one in the family that does this.  My CD, who at an indoor water park last weekend told me, clearly out of pure empathy, "they don't have hot water for your back" (meaning a hot tub).

I have always felt that I have exceptional sons.  Kind, smart, empathic, affectionate, passionate and talented, both of them, in their own unique ways.  Life was complete for our family with the two of them.  Who could need more than a rock solid loving marriage of now 17 years and two incredible kids?  And now we have CD.  Every bit as exceptional as her brothers.  This gift that may have made our lives crazy for a while, but a gift that keeps giving every day.

3 comments:

  1. Awesome post. Just loved it. Hope all works out well in the courtroom.

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  2. This post made we weepy. I also just read that she will be legally available for adoption! YAYAYAYAYAYAYAYAYYYYYYYYY! It is about freakin time! I don't think they will appeal, but I bet everyone is counting down the days, nonetheless.

    I will be too.

    So happy that this will finally, finally be behind you.

    Sorry you are ill - I hope you are feeling better.

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