Sunday, February 24, 2013
First time in adoption court
It is finally that time. My husband and I went to our first adoption court date. We have a new judge now. Her responsibility is to get this adoption finalized.
Prior to going in to court, a law guardian who was covering for the law guardian who was covering for CD's law guardian as she is on maternity leave, asked to meet with us prior to going in to court. She didn't know anything about our case so she asked a few questions in order to be prepared. It was a little weird though when she started with, "are you here because you are interested in adopting CD?"
Yeah, she's new.
Court went pretty smoothly. The paperwork is coming along. We were asked if we would still go ahead with the adoption if we are not granted a subsidy and we responded, "100%" (I found out later that people sometimes walk away from adoptions where there is no subsidy. It is so difficult to imagine that could possibly happen all that often though). The only glitch was in this little not so little detail. All children, prior to adoption, undergo a psychological evaluation. Adoptive parents can wave this requirement. My husband and I never waived it. We do not want to waive it. The adoption can't be completed until the evaluation is completed.
The judge wants the System to have done everything so that on April 3 we will be ready to choose an adoption date. She was not thrilled that this psychological evaluation has not even been scheduled.
As expected, especially because there is a particular evaluation that I want that can be only done by people who are appropriately trained to do these evaluations, the case manager's supervisor, who seems genuinely excited about our adoption, tried to make an appointment for the evaluation at a pretty busy place. He reached a voicemail that said that they are backlogged and they will get back to him in a "few days" to schedule an appointment.
It may push off the April 3 deadline that the judge gave the System. I am predicting it will. As much as my husband and I want this done already, we decided that we would prefer to wait rather than wave the evaluation though. So here's to hoping that a "few days" really means a few days and that by some miracle, it takes less than a month and a half to complete this evaluation.
Either way, we are getting close. At this 31 month mark, a few weeks here or there doesn't feel like anything. As long as CD is with us, it is all good.